Ma! – The Meatloaf!

Meatloaf.

A simple enough dish, right?

At least to any American mind, which likely imagined something like this:

It’s just a loaf of meat – how could that possibly be misconstrued?


Until you order a meatloaf in Europe and you get this:


The most important thing you can know is that you know nothing.

There’s always the possibility – regardless of your confidence level – that an alternative reality exists outside your personal little experience bubble.

It may be worth a peek outside that bubble every once in a while to test some of your assumptions – in particular the ones in which you have the highest confidence.

Some instances are harmless.

This “new” form of meatloaf that I accidentally discovered a few years ago was actually pretty tasty, but even if the outcome had been different, no major harm done. A few swigs of beer to cleanse the palette and a couple euros to pay for the meal, and it would have all been forgotten.

Other examples have greater impact.

Back in my Day

Life was difficult “back then” – those that preceded my generation went through hell, and I commend them on their journey. Their feelings are valid.

But my empathy ends when, on their ascension to power, they adopt the very practices they claim to hate.

The ones who subjected them to those detrimental practices are long retired – or in some cases, probably dead now – this new cohort can choose one of two paths for leading the next generation:

  • Continue previous practices, demanding the newcomers experience the same “rite of passage” they experienced.
  • Contemplate how they would have preferred to be treated, and do that instead.

The former approach saddens me. Irate with their previous leadership, and either unable or unwilling to address it with them, this new regime passes the negative energy downhill as a way to feel better.

The “I had to do it, so do you” mentality.

But there’s no more admirable act than the latter path – to suffer through adversity on the ascent, but then choose a better path when given the power to similarly subject others to the same fate.

A path toward progress.

Society collectively obsesses over continuous process improvement, but what about continuous people improvement?

We constantly improve everything in the workplace except the human condition.

Make the right call.

Be better.

Do better.

We feel your pain for what you went through – honestly – but take the bold leap to improve the human condition.

If you choose not to, then that’s a shame – but we will patiently await our turn to do the right thing.

Building up to the Boycott

Imagine a world where we all stopped buying non-essentials for three months.

What power the masses could wield with such discipline. But that would be difficult.

The better move is gradual – over the next six to eight months, train yourself by heavily scrutinizing your spending, and slowly remove unnecessary purchases from your life.

Spending 10% less 8 months from now during the upcoming holiday season would be a win.

Then repeat next year.

Win some, leave some

Human innovation isn’t as impressive as it seems.

Humanity’s collective intelligence is an intellectual powerhouse – our ingenuity is endless, and nothing is out of reach. There is nothing we can’t do, thus rendering our inventions quite predictable.

Time alone stands as the sole roadblock impeding further advancement.

And with this sole obstacle in our crosshairs, we overzealously inject increased effort into our routines as a means to compress the timeline, exponentially inflating our advancement rate. We are perpetually innovating, improving, and growing – a path and pace strongly reinforced and encouraged by the systems that surround us.

Instead of balancing time and effort, we supercharge effort to reduce time.

What’s the rush, though?

One plausible explanation – humanity’s undeniable, intrinsic desire to be first. Just watch kids at day care rush to be first in line when it’s time to go back into the classroom, pushing and shoving to claim that top spot. We carry this behavior right into adulthood –

Beat the competition.

Get there first.

Show your opponents no mercy.

The confounding part is that everything ‘discoverable’ will always be out there, just waiting to be found. We’re smart enough. We’ll get to it all eventually. But on an individual level –

We are impatient. We want it now.

We are paranoid. If we don’t do it, someone else will before we can.

We are conceited. No one else could possibly do what we alone can do, so better get to it before we are gone and the world is deprived of our individual greatness.

We push ourselves to the limit – to near robotic-level productivity – convinced that with our extra effort we can solve the world’s problems “with our own bare hands.” That’s another way of saying we can do it all ourselves.

But we can’t.

We shouldn’t.

And that’s okay.

If we are in such a rush to discover all the things on our own – to singlehandedly solve every global problem – we are not champions of our species, endowed with incredible powers that will save us all.

We are impatient.

We are paranoid.

We are conceited.

These messianic thoughts of ourselves that we entertain – that we’ve been unleashed on this world by the universe for the betterment of the human race – are laughable. Toss that grandiose narcissism aside. Escape that individual ego-bubble, join the rest of us in reality, slow down, and contribute collaboratively. We’re a global community. Save some ‘discovery’ for the rest of humanity.

And not just for the present population.

Time is not so much a roadblock as it is another resource for our species to utilize as we grow our collective intellect.

There will be others after us to carry the baton – in theory, anyway.

Notwithstanding a catastrophic human self-extinction brought on by our current state of affairs, we should all throttle back and rest easy knowing future generations will pick up where we left off.

Don’t bring checkers to a chess match

Recent events sparked some new thoughts on a concept I introduced in a previous post.

Pay attention to the rules before engaging in the game. Intimately understand the system and identify the levers that achieve maximum impact.

I did not participate in the 28 February economic blackout:

  • It’s the wrong tool for the intended impact. Halting spending for one day seems significant to the average person, but it’s a rounding error – a mere blip – on the Income Statements of the targeted large-cap, multinational companies currently in the crosshairs. These companies measure their finances quarterly, in lockstep with financial markets – they easily absorb a single-day financial hit.
  • Going cold turkey never works anyway. Keeping the first bullet in mind, companies won’t even see the impact of a one-day sales drop if individuals switch back to regularly scheduled “spending” programs and merely shift planned blackout day purchases to the next day*. Abruptly halting all spending on a single day is not sustainable for the average consumer anyway, and the inevitable return to normal spending habits becomes a non-impact since those sales still appear on the same quarterly financial statement.

*We’ll ignore for now the rare instance where a blackout day falls on the last day of a fiscal quarter.

If financial impact was the goal, a barrage of wooden arrows just shattered against tank armor.

If the goal is to stand in solidarity with a specific community or cause – great.

Unify.

Drive change.

I support the intent – just recognize the false lever and re-evaluate the strategy.


So no, I did not participate in the Feb 28 economic blackout:

I did shop at local stores though – because I typically do anyway.

I still used my credit card sparingly – I always do anyway.

These two actions form the core of the normal spending habits I established over the past decade.

Looking to make an impact? I emphasized “normal spending habits” twice in this post for a reason. Incrementally alter daily habits, fiercely and resolutely guard that checking account, and allow the desired global impacts to become a side-effect of individual self-improvement.

Selective Individuality

We scream from the rooftops that we want our independence. We need no one. We should be treated as individuals, and allow ourselves to live our lives.

Perfectly fair.

But unless you’re sewing your own clothes, building your own home, assembling your own car, generating your own electricity, and growing your own food, then you are obliged to acknowledge that you are reliant on others. Very few achieve – or even want, I’d argue – total independence.

We cannot selectively decide that we want individual treatment in certain situations that favor us, but then demand equitable treatment when the benefits are unfavorable.

We are a social species. Like it or not, we need each other. Embrace the help. Support your fellow humans.

The peril of indifference

Indifference runs wild without firm boundaries.

If you wait until you’re in the moment to decide where you stand, you will default to indifference, and eventually, with each passing decision, you’ll find yourself deep in enemy territory, condoning actions you abhor.

Define your positions and values ahead of time, so there’s no thought required when faced with tricky situations.

Question [almost] everything

Question everything.

A mantra of mine that I’m altering today.

Earlier today I caught a glimpse of an abandoned shopping cart off in the woods, and my brain immediately generated a barrage of trivial questions:

  • How did that get there?
  • Is there anything in the cart?
  • Who would abandon a cart there?
  • What store could it be from?
  • What stores are around here?
  • Which stores have blue in their color palette?

I cut off the impulse with one final question: Who cares?

Some questions aren’t worth the energy.

Don’t question everything.

Choose your questions wisely.

Debate yourself

Locked in on a certain position?

Temporarily take the opposing viewpoint and come up with every possible counterargument imaginable.

Pick it apart. Take every angle you can think of to disprove what you think. You owe it to yourself to develop these counterpoints, as they’ll either disprove your original stance, or help you solidify it. Either outcome is acceptable. In the former case, you evolve your viewpoint. In the latter, you have a coherent and competent rebuttal if the position ever comes up in discussion.

Saying you believe something and then immediately relying on anger to defend it is unacceptable.

Develop a full case for your position so you can defend it properly – and respectfully.

How much technology is enough?

Rejecting new technology is often seen as a landmark on the road to old age. It’s a sign – presumably – that one is now incapable of learning advanced tech in their later years.

Or, perhaps, it is merely an awakening – a realization as people age that the technology they grew up with was enough.

The text message has evolved in my lifetime from basic texting capability to sending images, links, stickers, and emojis, but I just hit my limit. A few days ago I received a “Happy New Year” text message, and when I opened it I was greeted with a visual assault of an animation to celebrate the occasion. I was then blessed with a repeat performance when I sent the same words back to the sender. No value added.

So as I start the latter half of this journey we call life, I reflect on those times I’ve criticized elders for their inability to grasp new technology. Reassessing any time I injected the word ‘luddite’ into a conversation, accusing someone of refusing to keep up with the times. Now I wonder if they knew something I didn’t. Did they know something I’m now starting to stumble upon?

Maybe that’s the trick – knowing when we’ve reached the point of ‘enough’ in life, and being content with what that provides.

Maybe future generations will catch on sooner.

Computers are great listeners

They do everything you tell them to do. Even if you don’t realize what you’re telling them to do.

During the pandemic I put a sticky note on my computer that read: “The computer is doing EXACTLY what you’re telling it to do.”

It served as a gentle reminder to find the root cause of whatever I did that was preventing the computer from functioning the way I intended. Fully 100% of the time it was user error – my intentions did not translate properly from brain to screen, and I did not realize it.

There’s a root cause for everything that ails us.

Focus. Find it. Fix it.

Generalize wisely

Generalizations are useful.

They can also mislead you.

We derive our generalizations from specific direct or anecdotal experiences so that we can subsequently recall them when our brains recognize something similar. From there, we should use that knowledge as a starting point to form a specific judgment about any new scenario. Generalizations are complex, however, and if we don’t develop and implement them properly, they can feed us false information. In order to prevent misuse we must:

  • Avoid adopting the generalizations of others without our own analysis
  • Prevent ourselves from blindly assigning our generalizations as fact toward every future scenario

It takes mental work to handle generalizations properly – making it very tempting to disregard these two bullets – but ignore them at your own peril. If you develop any mental statements that follow this structure:

All [nouns] are [adjective].”

You are morally obligated to validate those assumptions when you apply them to future experiences. Generalizations are merely starting points – general mental models – from which you should then develop a unique judgement about a specific scenario. Otherwise, you may run the risk of misguiding yourself.

The consequences of taking shortcuts can vary immensely. Mindlessly applying your own generalization across all future circumstances is negligent. Doing the same with someone else’s generalization that you haven’t personally vetted is dangerous, especially when dealing with non-trivial subjects. Used incorrectly, you run the risk of inciting unjustified hatred.

Wield the power of generalization wisely, as the concept is more complex than it seems. Reclaim responsibility for developing your own generalizations, and implement them with care.

Expect to Forget. Forget to Expect

Expect to forget.

It’s inevitable. We can’t remember everything – humans have a 0% success rate when it comes to making it through life remembering everything.

We’re human – we’re bound to forget something. We’ll naturally prioritize and maintain in our minds that which is most important, and the other stuff consequently falls off the plate.

So forget your expectations of perfection. Stop convincing yourself that you can get it all – that you can keep track of everything. You will forget. You will fail. And you will be better off for it.

So adjust the bar. Cut yourself some slack. Expect to forget.

The best (imperfect) week ever

In the past week I:

  • Tried to show up virtually to an in-person business meeting
  • Was outrun in my HIIT class when I’m typically the fastest
  • I was completely demolished on the tennis court during an event that I’m typically one of the strongest players
  • Found my car out in the road because I didn’t fully engage my parking brake

In spite of – or perhaps because of – all that imperfection, it was actually a great week.

Why do you eat?

Why do you eat? “Because I’m hungry” is an insufficient response. Think deeper and truly grasp the meaning of hunger.

Why do you eat what you eat? My answer to this question was always: “That’s what I grew up eating.” This response sounds eerily similar to the dangerous phrase: “We’ve always done it this way.”

Ask questions.

Challenge the status quo.

Maybe there’s a better way.